"Don't Judge Me"
“Don’t judge me.”
It’s a phrase I hear so often in therapy sessions. Clients say it as they begin to share their experiences, their struggles, or the choices they’ve made. Sometimes, they say it with a nervous laugh, sometimes with a quiet hesitance, bracing themselves for a reaction that never comes.
The truth is, judgment has no place in therapy.
It would be easy to form opinions about someone’s life, the situations they’ve found themselves in, or the decisions they’ve made. But what would be the point? Judgment doesn’t make me a better therapist, nor does it make me a better human being. More importantly, it doesn’t help my client.
If anything, judgment creates walls. It reinforces shame, fuels self-doubt, and makes it harder for people to open up and seek the support they need. That’s the opposite of what therapy should be. My role is to listen, to understand, and to help people navigate their way forward, no matter where they’ve been.
After years in this field, I sometimes think I’ve heard everything. But that’s never really true. People are unique. Their lives are unique. The experiences and struggles that have brought them to my therapy room are unique.
I don’t expect you to fit into a box. I don’t expect your story to follow a neat, predictable path. And I certainly won’t be shocked by what you share.
You won’t find judgment here.
What you will find is my full attention, my commitment, and my focus to help you move forward. No matter where you’ve been or where you find yourself right now, you are worthy of help, support, and the space to heal - without fear of judgment.
